Talk to your partner
Open communication is vital to a healthy swinging lifestyle. I only recommend swinging to couples who are honest with each other and are open minded enough to discuss their deepest fantasies with each other.

Listen to your partner
Communication before, DURING, and after are important. Use predetermined code words, or "looks" to communicate during any swinging activity. This way you can tell your partner what to do - or not to, without being shy or embarassed to say something.

Keep an open mind
Those who are open to new ideas are those that will have the most fun swinging. Don't be afraid to try new things. If you ever hear someone say they are "try-sexual", what they mean is they will try anything at least once.

Ask questions
Swingers love to meet people. They are the friendliest people I have ever met. They will be glad to help you out with your questions and concerns. Everyone has the same basic concerns: jealousy, moral issues, fears, diseases, convincing a partner, etc. People who have experienced these situations can help you make the important decisions you need to make.

Always be honest
Don't try to be someone that you're not. The one thing I hate the most is meeting someone only to find out that they are not as they described themselves. If you place or answer ads like we do, I suggest you always talk on the phone a few times before you ever meet in person.

Use the tub
You will find that many swingers have hot tubs. Next time you see a friend or relative with a hot tub... stop and wonder. :) If you are at a friends house or a party, use the hot tub! It is really easy to feel comfortable being naked in front of others if you are in the water. It will help you relax too.

Go easy with the alcohol
I can't stress this enough. If you drink, be smart about it. If you have to be drunk to swing, you should not be in this lifestyle. Social consumption of alcohol is fine and accepted, but don't abuse it. No one wants their evening spoiled because of one person's irresponsibility.

Be prepared
Everyone is nervous the first few times, and everyone is jealous - at least to some degree. Being prepared for these emotions will make dealing with them that much easier. Talking to others who are experienced is a great way to prepare yourself.

Do it for you
If you are thinking of swinging because you want to please your loved one, but you personally are not interested, you're doing it for the wrong reason. You are only going to enjoy it if you are interested in swinging.

"NO" means no
If at any time you are uncomfortable, simply say "No, thank you" This is a rule that is respected by all those who swing. And, if you ever hear someone say "No thank you", be sure to respect their wishes.